Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Re: [epilepsy] Re: Suicide

 

Matthew,

I don't consider having EP a disability. I think you said you haven't
had a sz for quite a while.

Are you living by yourself now? Are you still singing in the Barbershop
Quartet? Do you see your parents often? You have never mentioned your
mother. Is she living?

Have there been no counselors who would help you be independent?

Millie

> Trust me... I wish I could move, but finances get in the way.
> I keep trying to find work , but I'm classed Unemployable for Public
> Safety
> Issues.
> They say.... The Safety of Thousands is more important than the pleasures
> of
> just one."
>
> My Dad is a registered GP/Surgeon and for so long, he made all the
> decisions
> around my medical treatment. For example I had a Vasectomy done and all
> he
> needed was his own signature (being the parent) to legally perform the
> operation.
>
> When I turned legal age, I got my own doctor and my Dad was furious hoping
> to keep me away from stuff like sex. His opinion was "What he doesn't
> know,
> won't hurt him!".
>
> When I talked about getting my own place, he put me into a Home for the
> Handicapped. While everybody in the outside world got on with their
> lives,
> I was restricted to whatever the Care Home had planned for us.
>
> In there, I met a woman who also has epilepsy, and being supportive
> towards
> each other, we went from being understanding friends into lovers when she
> pulled me close and I experienced my first real kiss! It was great, but I
> was taken to court for it. I was told it doesn't matter if she and I were
> falling in love with each other.
>
> Legally, the rules say that if a person has a disability, consent for such
> an action must come from their parents. Since I hadn't called her parents
> to
> obtain their permission to be friends with their daughter, I'm guilty of
> sexual assault, as they say kissing is sexual.
>
> The Judge said I needed counselling, so I was sent to the Sex Offender
> Program to learn how the Law claims people with disabilities are legally
> children inside and... Children cannot give consent. I was told it was
> okay
> when we were just friends, but when we kissed, I crossed the line.
>
> Feels more like I'm guilty for trying to be normal, when my medical
> records
> prove I'm not.
>
> Matthew Ford
> Victoria, BC, Canada
> (North-West of Seattle, Washington)
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>

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