Hi Kevin,
There are epilepsy support groups just about everywhere, at least in
the US. Go through your local Epilepsy Foundation, neurology clinic
or Epilepsy Advocate to find what is close to you.
Women are also afraid of rejection, as rejection can come from either
gender, you know:) You have to be willing to take risks in order to
find love. It might be easier to stay in your home alone, but I don't
think it could be as fulfilling as having a lifelong partner, someone
who loves you just for who you are. I've had my heart broken a few
times, but I've also been with my husband for 26 years (Wow! half of
my life now), not counting the years we dated. We've been through all
kinds of problems, but also through some wonderful times together,
and we know we have each other to depend on, no matter what. I'll
give you that many people never have a solid marriage like that, but
since I think our reason for being here is to love and be loved, I
think that loving people in whatever capacity one can is the best
thing one can do, both for our own personal fulfillment and for others.
You asked what woman would accept a man who has many friends? I would
and do. My three daughters all do, as do their boyfriends and
spouses. Pretty much every one I know who is in a relationship also
has at least several friends. Sometimes the couples have friends in
common and do things together as a couple with these friends.
Sometimes, like my husband, the guy has his geek friends, hunting
buddies, fishing buddies, golfing buddies, etc. and the woman is just
really happy that she doesn't have to feign interest in a passion
that she doesn't share. And that goes both directions. Say you want
to go shoe shopping or clothes shopping and just watch a guy's eyes
roll. Either that, or they get that deer in the headlights look, as
they imagine waiting for hours while holding their girl's purse
outside the fitting room.:) We need a number of people in our lives,
not just one, although that one person may be central to our
happiness. In fact, I would say that any relationship where one
person doesn't want their partner to have other friends is a very
unhealthy relationship. You frequently see that in abusive
relationships, for example.
That said, I was suggesting that you get out in the community in some
way and make some connections with other people. That in itself can
be rewarding, and it may ultimately lead to some good friendships and
perhaps even to finding one special person. I have one suggestion,
given your talent for growing things. In my area, people are really
getting into the sustainability movement, eating locally, etc. You
could grow vegetables to donate to your local food pantry, get a
community garden started with other interested people, or something
along those lines. A group of us are working with our local Unitarian
church, who has given us space for a garden on their property. We are
growing veggies with the intent of donating them to our food pantry,
so that those with lower incomes can also enjoy some tasty, fresh,
locally grown produce. There are also programs where they are
teaching people in the city to do gardening to supplement their food,
either in containers, in their yards, even on their rooftops or
garage rooftops. I think this kind of thing is very exciting and
something you'd be really good at. If you are interested in hearing
more, contact me and I'll send you some links, etc.
You sound somewhat content with your situation, but I think that if
you were truly satisfied with being solo with your pets and home, you
most likely wouldn't have sought out people in the form of this list.
Feel free to tell me that I'm wrong if you disagree:) It sounds like
you have some wonderful talents with regard to gardening and
landscape design, and that would make a great part or full-time
business for you if you were interested in doing so. You are
intelligent, witty and have a lot going for you. Not every woman
measures a man by stereotypical ideas of masculinity, or looks for
perfection. It's just a coincidence, but I've dated a man who was
deaf in one ear and my husband is blind in one eye. Those things
don't matter one jot. What matters is that they were(are) funny,
intelligent, and warm men who give from their hearts. Gosh, I'm
suddenly feeling really sentimental.
Hugs from your friend,
Tammy
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