I think this might be easier for us women with epilepsy than men. We have a strong instinct to care for our kids as women, not to mention our hormonal connection.. this could make us extra connected/clingy to our kids in our epileptic state. I know that part of my stress in epilepsy is that it stops me from being as good a mum as i'd like to be. Then our hubbys can be there to reassure us and love us in their adorable stoic-ness :-p
Put the epilepsy in the the daddy and, i feel, perhaps the mother won't act so well. She wont understand the seizures (maybe even not want to acknowledge too deeply in case one of her kids may have a slight genetic chance if developing it herself) and I'd imagine she is more likely in a difficult situation to 'protect her kids' rather than understand the epileptic. Its the downside of the mothering thing.. we can be bitches on wheels when it comes to keeping life smooth for our children :-p
So then daddy gets alienated by mummy or maybe even by larger society as her friends, counsellors, TV attitudes etc etc all agree that she must have a hard life with her 'flaky' partner. Sorry guys, people say matriarchal society was harsher than patriarchy. Women are like diamonds, precious in their value but sometimes hard to dent.
Hugs all round (and a disclaimer - oftentimes i don't get on well in forums as i tend to say what i see and have seen a lot in my 24 years of epilepsy, so please don't take offence)
Emily x
Epileptic mom with difficult to control simple and complex partials x
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