As someone who is married for coming up to 25 years, I must say, give people a chance. None of us are perfect. It is how we relate and treat one another that builds relationships. If you need help once in a while when having a seizure, that is no different to people who get headaches or have other ailments and need help. Granted there is a unknown factor and seeing a grand mal must be quite scary for a loved one. ( I have never seen one)
We have two children and ep is not hereditary as far as I know. Neither of my children have it. They have asked questions and thought they might get it but it doesn't work like that. I got it from a head injury and have explained it to them. If anything, I think it has help them grow and have a different perspective on life. I know when I was working on a neighbors yard with my son and had a sz, he was quite responsible in calling for help and kept himself together. He was only 12 at the time.
One of the things that I consider myself quite fortunate in my life is I know I do need help at times and having a spouse who cares for me as I do for her. It is a much better way to enjoy life. I lived alone through college and it was not fun. I was quite lonely and I wasn't able to get around like others. Bottom line is give people a change, you will be surprised how they will listen and want to be close to you for the other aspects that you have to share with them. If they don't accept your flaws, it probably isn't a good match. Rejection may be painful but the alternative is just as painful, loneliness.
CBI
--- On Tue, 6/23/09, Tristin Seagraves <tristinspike26@
From: Tristin Seagraves <tristinspike26@
Subject: Re: [epilepsy] using the bathroom or shower(shotwho24)
To: epilepsy@yahoogroup
Date: Tuesday, June 23, 2009, 6:34 PM
Hey Scott,
I think all of us here can relate to your "fear of rejection." I know I can. It's hard to find someone who can accept epilepsy for what it is and care enough to learn more about it and support you. I'm only 25 and I'm already debating on living my whole life single. lol.
Tristin :)
--- On Tue, 6/23/09, scott callahan <shotwho24@yahoo. com> wrote:
From: scott callahan <shotwho24@yahoo. com>
Subject: Re: [epilepsy] using the bathroom or shower(shotwho24)
To: epilepsy@yahoogroup s.com
Date: Tuesday, June 23, 2009, 2:21 PM
when i lived with my mother i left the bathroom door unlocked for the same reason,and no,i have no plans for getting a vasectomy as although i have no desire for children (for their safety) i am not sexually active.heck, i have always kind of scared to ask the ladies anyway because of a fear of rejection.lol
--- On Tue, 6/23/09, Danny Newell <bigboy46@sbcglobal . net> wrote:
From: Danny Newell <bigboy46@sbcglobal . net>
Subject: Re: [epilepsy] using the bathroom or shower(shotwho24)
To: epilepsy@yahoogroup s.com
Date: Tuesday, June 23, 2009, 1:13 PM
do you have any plans on getting a vasectomy since you have seizures.
--- On Tue, 6/23/09, Danny Newell <bigboy46@sbcglobal . net> wrote:
From: Danny Newell <bigboy46@sbcglobal . net>
Subject: Re: [epilepsy] using the bathroom or shower
To: epilepsy@yahoogroup s.com
Date: Tuesday, June 23, 2009, 10:27 AM
i think it is o.k., but can you just leave the bathroom door cracked open so they will know if you go into a seizure by some noise in falling in the shower, what did you do when you lived with your mother about using and showering in the bathroom.
--- On Mon, 6/22/09, shotwho24 <shotwho24@yahoo. com> wrote:
From: shotwho24 <shotwho24@yahoo. com>
Subject: [epilepsy] using the bathroom or shower
To: epilepsy@yahoogroup s.com
Date: Monday, June 22, 2009, 4:10 PM
i am looking for some opinions.i live with my brother his wife and stepchildren, and there are 3 bathrooms in this house so they are able to use theirs.i know that it is common to lock the door when using the bathroom or shower,but when i (having epilepsy) use my bathroom,i leave the door unlocked as a precaution for the possibility that i might have a seizure while in there.what opinions do you have on this matter?
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